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Special time with my Mom

Special time with my Mom

I got to slept until 8:30 AM this morning….finally one morning that I didn’t have to get up this holiday vacation. But why do I hate it when my mother gets up at 8:30? AND Then, why do I think her life is boring if she does this?

As you age, you realize that some traits or mannerism do not ‘fall far from the tree’, meaning we all act like our parents.

I have example after example when little kids come into my office and say things about their mom or dad and then they do the same thing…fulfilled destiny.

A daughter is the happy memories of the past, the joyful moments of the present, and the hope and promise of the future. ~Author Unknown

This is a very good video of relationships between moms and daughters that were strong but not the positive connection we all want and thrive for…watch and feel blessed that the relationship you have with your daughter and/or your mother are not like these. Please comment below if your relationship with your mother or your daughter has been the connection that you had hoped for.

This past week my children and I went to Russell Springs Kansas with my Mom Рthis was the happy memories of the past. Then we spent time with my mother in her apartment in Colorado Рthis was the joyful moments of the present.

The hope and promise of the future have to be the multi-college trips I have been on this summer. But it might be the long conversations I have had with close friends about how hard it is to have an aging parent and then they talk to me about how great my own children are working with my mother. How patience Jackie is with my mother and how helpful Grant is with her move.

What the daughter does, the mother did.  ~Jewish Proverb

As we try to move many of my mother’s things into her new apartment, I hear my daughter talking to my mother. It sounds like me! She is saying some of the exact things I am thinking.

Of all the haunting moments of motherhood, few rank with hearing your own words come out of your daughter’s mouth. ~Victoria Secunda

For Jackie:

Hope you have a happy birthday! This is the first birthday of your life that I have not been in the same location. I feel so sad. Jackie has had a lot of school photos and I love them all.

Oh so long ago....

I have always enjoyed her summer birthdays because we could celebrate them even when she was in Switzerland. Last year we got to celebrate with her friends in Tahoe, they came from Colorado. This year, we will just have to have the connection by internet, until I see her later this summer. This might be a sad day for me.

Windows to your soul

photo: http://www.flickr.com/photos/jinterwas/5451827596/ (It is not me or my Mom at Tahoe but it could have been!

Jackie’s photos from both ends of her school career (not college life)

  • Lori
    June 28, 2011 at 10:39 pm

    I just love your blog, Julia. Each is beautifully written and poignant. I love my relationship with my daughter…she is so much like me, yet so different. I treasure every moment with her.