My heart is broken each year as kids move on .
Prickly , thorny and problematic . . . the relationship between my head and my heart is complicated.
Some people do not have this trouble. They are unable or unwilling to give up the demands and satisfactions of giving in to their feelings. They can keep life and emotions separated.
Once I got in trouble for using the word “kid” in a school document. I was informed that writing from a school (as the school counselor) I had to use the word “student”. It felt wrong to me. It made my head and heart hurt.
Living in Thailand I love to use the metaphor that Jonathan Haidt uses to describe the conflicting forces behind human conduct.
Rider sitting atop an elephant
Dr. Haidt labels the conscious reasoning self as a rider sitting atop an Elephant, the emotional self. The analytical Rider is constantly striving to direct and control the emotional Elephant. He acknowledges that training the Elephant is possible and useful, but the larger and more powerful Elephant will sometimes go its own way.
I love young kids, their elephants are always “going their own way” and these kids are happy, resilient kids.