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Oct
2012
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The Power of Words: How Four Little Words can Make or Break Your Child’s Self-Esteem

 “I Need Your Help”

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The Power of Words!

This is often something we just take for granted but have you really -really thought about the words you use daily?

Let me give you a few simple examples. As a parent if you simply rephrase some common expressions you can help your child 100% of the time to feel better about him/herself.

Say, “I need your help to feed the cat.”

Instead of saying, “Feed the cat.”

You’re letting your child know that he or she is needed and valued.

As teachers, you can simply rephrase some common expressions and help your whole class feel better about themselves.

Say, “I need your help to clean up the room so we can get to music class on time.”

Instead of singing, “Clean up, clean up, everybody clean up”.

You’re letting the class know that they are needed and valued.

As a partner, you can simply rephrase some common expressions and help your mate feel special and loved.

Say, “I need your help to organize our bills that we need to pay.”

Instead of saying, “You need to pay the electricity bill.”

You’re letting him/her know that you are a team and he/she is needed and valued.

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When you are stuck in a long immigration line –

Say, “I need your help to make sure we don’t have any issue getting into our new home.”
Instead of saying, “Be quiet.”
You’re letting your child know that he or she is needed and valued.

When you are looking at the new school and your child has to take the entrance exam –

Say, “I need your help to get into the best school for our family in this location.”
Instead of saying, “Straighten up – be good!”
You’re letting your child know that he or she is needed and valued.

When the new maid ruins his/her favorite shirt

Say, “I need your help to be respectful and help her understand our wishes and wants.”
Instead of saying, “Grow up, it is just a shirt.”
You’re letting your child know that he or she is needed and valued.

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When you are stuck with a long line of paperwork ahead of you just to get your pet off the airplane –

Say, “I need your help to get our dog home as quick as possible.”

Instead of saying, “Stop it, Be good.”

You’re letting your child know that he or she is needed and valued.

As a parent, how are you doing in the day-to-day interactions with your children? Please let us know an interaction that you have had that has helped your child feel loved and connected.

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1 Response

  1. This is great advice. I think I’m usually pretty good at helping my daughter feel needed; although I do have lapses, naturally! She reacts positively to it, so I shall remind myself to do this more often.