Education is one of the most important things that I value in life. This is why I went to seek out the principal of the school and ran over the highs and lows of my child’s time at his school. I called it my exit interview. I felt it is important because as an educator that is not being paid by his school, I could be honest, timely and truthful about my feedback.
Children who will be ready to excel in college are the ones that have already failed.
Did they miss an assignment and their parents didn’t ask the teacher to ‘lighten up’ on their child? Did they oversleep and their parents didn’t call and lie to the school? Did they miss out on an A by .07 and their parents said “Looks like you worked hard and I am sorry that you didn’t get what you wanted” but the parents didn’t comment about the teacher or gloss over the sadness of missing something so close. These parents are the real winners in the world.
Good parents = Good Job = Wonderful Kids
How do you measure success? Please let your children have some stress in their lives so they can grow into the best they can be.
Emotional Resilience and the Expat Child
For parents who have children that have grown up in a different country than their passport country, you might have some ‘interesting’ things to face. Where should your kids go to University? Where should they look for summer jobs? How or where will they get identification besides a passport?These are a few of the things you will have to iron out with your expat child.
Some things that I found out the hard way:
Getting a US driver’s license is hard due to all the rules and requirements. Many of my friends don’t own a car in the USA so their kids can’t take a driving test, you need to show proof of insurance and valid registration and rental cars won’t work. Nevada has a great law; you have to have insurance in the state of Nevada, but you don’t have to have car insurance to drive the car off the car dealerships lot. Oh, but yes, you do get a $100 fine if you then try to register the vehicle because you drove it without insurance.
A child might be good at flying all over the world, spend weeks traveling with friends in Europe but can’t get a hotel room traveling in some states in the USA because they are not 21 years old. If they were in the USA military, they could rent at 18 years old.
Using a company mail pouch can cause concerns in several areas. Your child might be labeled as coming from that address, so, therefore, they get pegged as a student from that state when in fact they are international. Learning to pay bills online is easy but having to understand the US post system can be hard for some children who have always lived overseas.
Laundry can be a challenge for any child so let them do their own before they head off to Univeristy.
Connections to all family members – encourage your college student to reach out and make contact to all siblings, both mom and dad, and grandparents. Often in the past, communication was done in person or initiated by a parent to the grandparent. Make sure your college kid has a way to connect with everyone.
Hug every change you get your child soon will not be walking across your kitchen several times a day and as a parent you will miss that!