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Lost in the lingo

Lost in the lingo

I was recently asked if I still saw the BRIC countries as my key focus group.

I am honest enough to say “What?” and hope the conversation gets back to one I can understand. I am talking to a global relocation agent. He went on to explain that the BRIC countries (Brazil, Russia,India and China) were among the top emerging destinations for international assignments. China is often a top emerging country, but there were concerns about their slowing economy.  Brazil’s vast natural resources and its strategic location cause many international assignments.  India is known for its large strong workforce. Russia seems to be on a decline now due to continued difficulty in making significant inroads or long term investments.

Challenging locations

China, Brazil and India are often seen as the countries with the most challenges for international assignees.  Brazil is known for it’s overwhelmingly immigration complexities and timing as posing challenges.

China and India cultural and family adaptation and quality of life issues were more predominant.

The USA also shows up on this list of challenging locations.

  • immigration regulations
  • taxtation
  • difficulty in obtaining transportation without a credit record

BRIC countries assignment failure

BRIC countries top four of the five locations for assignment failure. China seems to be the highest, then India in second place for failures of assignments. Russia and the United States tied in third and fourth place, followed by Russia in fifth place. The two top reasons for failure were:

  1. Inability to adapt to the culture, family and spouse/partner issues
  2. Quality of life concerns

I can honestly say this was a very long coffee break and for once I did very little talking until he got to the ‘failure’ of the families.

Successes of Families

I was able to counter balance his failures with story after story of successful family transitions.  I shared with him about a friend I knew that went from England to Nigeria, Malaysia, Singapore, and Australia,. Also, Papua New Guinea, Netherlands, Trinidad, Tobago, Thailand, USA, Equatorial Guinea were on her “home” list. These locations not in a straight line but much like when I am going around the fruit market looking at all the options in a Bangkok wet market.   She often ended back in ‘repeat locations’.

I shared with him the family that had started out as a newly married couple leaving the USA. They went to UK, Australia, and China where they added three children.  Then they went back to the USA. They found themselves in Nigeria with two children going to high school there and one off in boarding school in London. Then off to Viet Nam they went and the kids headed off to university. A short hop to Indonesia and then they found themselves with an elder parent that moved into their family as they relocated to Bangkok. They went from 2 people, to three in their family, to four, to five, to four, to two, to three.  A very fluid rotation of family members.

I shared with him a family that had one child and adopted a child abroad. Then the family split but they remained in the same location abroad so the children had two households.  Both parents remarried so now the kids had four parents. This family went for two to three to four to six people!

What causes a family to flourish abroad

If you are raising a global nomad the need for communication is even more important for success.  Global families need to have both instrumental and affective communication.  Instrumental communication is the exchange of factual information. “I will pick you up at 2:00 in front of the library.” Affective communication deals with how you share your emotions.

isolation abroadOften global families travel around  in a small cocoon there they rely heavily on each other.  If these global families have indirect or vague communication this contributes to a lack of intimacy and emotional bonding between the family members.  This leads to the feeling of isolation while abroad.

As we finished up our cup of coffee, I realized that families abroad will only be as successful as the people in the family want to be successful. A family can fail when they don’t move around or they can flourish in move after move.

Here is a short video of some of the things I have been able to do while trailing around the world.